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“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
― Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

I would never describe myself as strong. I can cry much more easily than the average Joe. Forgiving has been a self preservation skill I learned from an early age. My mother and brother were abusive towards me, verbally, mentally and physically. I realized after every uproar that if I did not quickly forgive and forget (purely in my head, they have not and will not apologize for anything) and apologize, worse things would come down the road. From years of this, it has become far too easy for me to forgive and even take the blame. So maybe my idea of forgiveness is askew.

What’s bad is I expect everyone else to be able to forgive as easily. That obviously has not been the case. Throughout my drinking, I did a lot of bad things. Some people have forgiven me, others have not. I have noticed one thing about those who did. They all are strong individuals.

As I am on my fourth step, now is a good time to reevaluate my idea of forgiveness. Saying it’s ok is not it. For me to forgive, it means really letting go of any anger I hold relating to it. This is not easy. I think this is definitely going to take some time.

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“There is no fa…

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“There is no failure except in no longer trying.”

Elbert Hubbard

I am feeling very defeated today. My head has been hurting all day, and I have been exhausted. I feel mentally drained. It’s days like this that made me give up so many times in the past. I used to have a lot of days like this. It was overwhelming. I have strength now. I know tomorrow will be different. I will never give up again.

Wise Words January 15th

“Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.”

Jodi Picoult

Ah anxiety. My worst enemy. It takes over me like nothing else in this world. I am working so hard on how to deal with it. I have to admit I usually do not deal with it in a healthy way, but I am trying. I know one day it will be better.

Wise Words January 14th

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”

 Confucius
This can be applied to me in a couple ways today. I started back at school full time. I am the old lady in class. I am surround by people in their late teens and early twenties. It gets a little discouraging. But I cannot give up, I will not give up. This applies to my running too. Today was especially difficult. My legs were just hurting. I wanted to stop almost the whole run. I did not though. Since hurting my ankle, I am much slower and cannot run as far. But I refuse to give up.